Well, you MADE IT! At this point, Mother’s Day 2018 is a memory and many of us are glad. While I enjoyed the day, it included an unexpected event.
I decided to spend the day with my Mother in Saginaw just as I had mentioned in my previous post. I was up early Sunday morning preparing for my hour and a half drive up I-75. With a card and treats in hand, I began my trip.
I did not make it 30 minutes into my journey before I was brought to a complete stop. I could hear the tire make a popping sound and I immediately thought this cannot be good. Refusing to stop on the side of the interstate, I continued to drive until I made it to a safer location.
Once I arrived at a gas station, I saw that my tire was completely flat. After a call to my husband and AAA, I had to inform my Mom that I would not be there for breakfast. While she was a little disappointed, she was more relieved that I was safe. Once I got the tire replaced, I would still celebrate with her later that afternoon.
At this point, I had to concede that my plans had changed. I resisted the urge to get upset and chose to go with flow. Besides, what else could I do? I couldn’t undo what the mysterious object had done to my tire or magically teleport myself to my hometown while the tire elves solved this problem. In the moment, this situation demanded to be handled.
I cleared the items from my trunk to make it easier for the AAA worker to access my spare tire and looked for the closest tire shop with Sunday hours while I waited. Once AAA arrived, it was a simple process to change the tire. I was already at the tire shop when they opened. They had my tire in stock and replacing it was also a simple process that only required that I wait for them to do it. I was not happy about this unexpected event, but I handled it. I was determined to take care of this flat tire and get myself going again.
I have to make this declaration everyday on my fertility journey. Yes, I said fertility journey! Just like so many couples, Rodney and I never expected that infertility would be a part of our story as a couple. We knew that because of his vasectomy, we would have to employ additional procedures in order to grow our family. We honestly figured it would happen just as we planned.
With infertility, changing your plans can become a regular occurrence. We planned for one successful vasectomy reversal procedure and my husband had two unsuccessful procedures. We never planned for an IVF procedure and once we began the process we never thought that it would also be unsuccessful but it was. As beautiful as our family is, we still have a desire for it to grow with more children. Through all of this, I’m still determined to keep moving.
I’m learning so many things about my marriage, my faith walk, and myself. They are lessons that I didn’t really expect yet they are changing who I am for the better. I am learning that I am stronger than I realized and that I can’t afford to allow infertility to drive a wedge between Rodney and I. The condition of my spiritual foundation came into clear focus while on this journey and it begged to be strengthened.
As you face your unexpected events, determine to guard your heart and emotions. Fortify your faith with the Word of God. Please invest time in your relationship with your spouse that focuses on growing your family and time that is completely free of that focus. Give yourself permission to feel all of the many emotions that come up for you. Celebrate your wins and mourn your losses no matter how big or small.
Our challenges demand to be handled as we seek to grow our families and go about our day. We cannot afford to be paralyzed on the side of the road. We’ve got a destination to get to and some celebrating to do when we get there. Take it one moment at a time and be patient and strong. Just KEEP MOVING!
Hope-Filled Thought: I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14
Prayer: Thank You Lord for the desire to experience your greatest creation: family. Strengthen me as I seek you and grow into the person you desire for me to be. I trust you as you manifest your wonderful plan for my life. I receive it and it is so. Amen.
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